To the One I will love,
You beautiful creature-
Make me anew,
Make me love you,
Fulfill me,
Bring all the thrills of your World to me.
A command,
A demand,
A direct order, to order our soul-
In love in a universe where love seems not to exist.
I don't want us to just exist-
I want our union to persist past this-
All this that society throws at us-
Trust,
Trust is more than a plus-
It is our compass.
Our faithfulness to one another is our true and magnetic North,
And our water source.
Nourishment for a lifetime-
A foundation for two sound minds forming lasting pair.
I do dare-
Dare to say, all this is in the name of love.
Should I lend you a drop of blood, my left ring finger, or to bear a child-
To show you it's real?
When I see you-
I will then realize-
I will be so faithful
Peace before all,
Ashley
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Friday, November 11, 2011
Sunday, February 15, 2009
The Economics of Relationship: how to get over an ex( Part VI )
The aftermath of Valentine's Day ( btw one of my favorite days). Many people celebrated yesterday like the joyous occasion it is, but many didn't. Why? Because many are harden and bitter from a recent relationship that failed.
The US Code provides an outline for individuals and businesses that become insolvent in the Bankruptcy Code (Title 11) of Chapter 7 (Chapter 13 for reorganization). This particular bit of law dictates the liquidating process of all assets and liabilities. Why do they need to file for bankruptcy, because their financial budgeting failed, as do relationships.
My Bankruptcy Code for relationship is not as detailed as the one provide by the government, it only has five steps.
The US Code provides an outline for individuals and businesses that become insolvent in the Bankruptcy Code (Title 11) of Chapter 7 (Chapter 13 for reorganization). This particular bit of law dictates the liquidating process of all assets and liabilities. Why do they need to file for bankruptcy, because their financial budgeting failed, as do relationships.
My Bankruptcy Code for relationship is not as detailed as the one provide by the government, it only has five steps.
- Valuation Test ( Pros/Cons of the Relationship[past or current])
If the Cons outweigh the Pros you have successfully identified and assessed your situation properly and can move on to step #2
- Interim trustee
This is some one that you usually won't date, or always want to date, or someone who is just alot of fun to be around. It might seem like you are using this person, but everyone has to serve a purpose,right. I recommend you go do something that your ex or person you are trying to forget would never let you do. If you always want to go ice skating or go to the movies or skydive---go ahead and just do it. You will experience the freedom of not being restricted --- enjoy that feeling, it is important for the next step.
- Slight Restitution
Now since this person is not in your life, you will have to get use to not having certain conveniences ( remember those Pros you listed in Step #1). Maybe he washed your laundry or she always cooked dinner for you...now since you have started this process you will have to do your own laundry and cook for yourself. Just remember the freedom felt during Step #2
- Liquidation
Finally, you have progressed to the point where you can start dissolving the entity that was a failed and stressful relationship and move towards something new. Remember the main principle of the Economics of Relationships (Part I): that all relationships thrive on the supply and demand of the marketable product offered by each party. If you are at the point of Liquidation, the demand for your marketable product has decline or even worse, gone to zero. Not to waste time or any other resource you MUST withdraw your product from this market (the relationship). How? Temporary cutoff of all contact (explained in Step #5) no phone conversation, texts, facebook,etc. Also channel all the energy you would have used in the relationship into something else...school, work, exercise...
- Reorganization
This code of relationship bankruptcy is so you, yes you, don't end up bitter and all strung out. So after you have liquidated properly, you can now reorganize you social interaction with this person with strict guideline defined by you. If you feel that you are falling back into the cycle , start the relationship bankruptcy process over, and spend more time on each step.
Peace before all,
Ashley
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Lies are Bombs: The Truth is a Bullet
Bell Hooks, in her book Bone Black, said Lies are Bombs. Lets take that one step further, if lies are bombs, than the truth is a bullet. Yes, the truth has a fierce sting, might even cause the spill of blood; but lies destroy the settlement of an existence, a relationship, a friendship. I rather the bullet of truth to rip in to the flesh of my pride , than the bombs created by lies to exist under the surface of a relationship, only to explode and destroy what I thought was real and true.
Peace before all,
Ashley
Peace before all,
Ashley
Sunday, January 18, 2009
I am falling into "like", again
I fall into and out of "like" at a rate comparable to the speed of light. I like someone and I dig them to the "n" th degree (n being a immeasurable amount equal to a whole lot). I want to know everything about them; I want to be what they dream of; I want to fulfill them. But then, come the letdowns, and I fall right out of "like", sometimes faster then I fell into. This time it is different.I don't get impress many guys at all; I know their tricks. This guy, from the first time I saw him, I told myself, I think I can love him, and from me that is BIG. My quest to understand him has more effort behind it. Also, he lives hundreds of miles away. I just hope it all works out.
Peace before all,
Ashley
Peace before all,
Ashley
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Absurdity of it all: I am comfortable with my sexuality
Disclaimer: This is not an intolerant bash or a coming out party, but simply a celebration of being a woman!!..:
Why every time I say the words, "I am comfortable with my sexuality!" It is followed by questions of my sexual orientation! Are lesbians the only women that are truly comfortable with their sexuality? And if straight women are comfortable with their sexuality does that mean they are branded with the whore label (Check the test Women vs Whores)
Well, you are not looking at a whore in me. Sexuality doesn't just mean sex, sexiness, and any and everything dealing with sexual organs. Sexuality is the way in which one carries oneself in situations that are concern with individuals of attractiveness.
I think there are many unsatisfied women in relationships and marriages because they don't understand their sexuality and its value to themselves and those who "love" them. Why is this, because it is still taboo in 2008 for women to explore there inner sexuality without negative commentary. There has been much criticism of the Muslim faith for "forcing" women to wear hijabs , but it least their restriction of female sexuality is overt. In American culture, the main critics of the Muslim faith, the restriction female sexuality is more serve and covert.We are told we are beautiful in any form but we are told that we can't express it or if so, it's at the risk of negative labels. We are told that we have to keep are husbands happy at any cost, but He has no obligation to keep us happy.
No wonder lesbians are so happy and satisfied, there is no standard, rather double standard, only if all women can own a small portion of this confident and all men can help in aiding all women in expressing their sexuality.
Why every time I say the words, "I am comfortable with my sexuality!" It is followed by questions of my sexual orientation! Are lesbians the only women that are truly comfortable with their sexuality? And if straight women are comfortable with their sexuality does that mean they are branded with the whore label (Check the test Women vs Whores)
Well, you are not looking at a whore in me. Sexuality doesn't just mean sex, sexiness, and any and everything dealing with sexual organs. Sexuality is the way in which one carries oneself in situations that are concern with individuals of attractiveness.
I think there are many unsatisfied women in relationships and marriages because they don't understand their sexuality and its value to themselves and those who "love" them. Why is this, because it is still taboo in 2008 for women to explore there inner sexuality without negative commentary. There has been much criticism of the Muslim faith for "forcing" women to wear hijabs , but it least their restriction of female sexuality is overt. In American culture, the main critics of the Muslim faith, the restriction female sexuality is more serve and covert.We are told we are beautiful in any form but we are told that we can't express it or if so, it's at the risk of negative labels. We are told that we have to keep are husbands happy at any cost, but He has no obligation to keep us happy.
No wonder lesbians are so happy and satisfied, there is no standard, rather double standard, only if all women can own a small portion of this confident and all men can help in aiding all women in expressing their sexuality.
Friday, December 12, 2008
The Economics of Relationships (Part IV)
Liquidation
Liquidation refers to the process by which a portion or entire entity is brought to an end, and the assets and property of the company redistributed
When do you know when your relationship needs to be liquidated?
1)"Marketable Products become obsolete" (Part I):Products that were once attractive to one another have become useless, overpriced, or easily replaced.
2) "No extra mile"(Part II): there is no goodwill being create, at all. Neither party is trying to make the relationship special
3) "The concept of offspring is a no-no"(Part III): Though in Part III, the concept of producing offspring was detached from the fact of loving-ness, but even with this in mind, if you can't see yourself having a child with the other person (mistakes do happen) maybe the relationship is in question.
In the realm of relationships, the objective detachment professed by the Economics of Relationships is most effective if you are emotionless, or can avoid emotional attachment. Being the steady sales of kleenex tissues, emotions will be a mainstay. Good Luck, to all the lovebird out there.
Peace before all,
Ashley
Liquidation refers to the process by which a portion or entire entity is brought to an end, and the assets and property of the company redistributed
When do you know when your relationship needs to be liquidated?
1)"Marketable Products become obsolete" (Part I):Products that were once attractive to one another have become useless, overpriced, or easily replaced.
2) "No extra mile"(Part II): there is no goodwill being create, at all. Neither party is trying to make the relationship special
3) "The concept of offspring is a no-no"(Part III): Though in Part III, the concept of producing offspring was detached from the fact of loving-ness, but even with this in mind, if you can't see yourself having a child with the other person (mistakes do happen) maybe the relationship is in question.
In the realm of relationships, the objective detachment professed by the Economics of Relationships is most effective if you are emotionless, or can avoid emotional attachment. Being the steady sales of kleenex tissues, emotions will be a mainstay. Good Luck, to all the lovebird out there.
Peace before all,
Ashley
Thursday, December 11, 2008
The Economics of Relationships(EOC) (Part III)
Joint Venture:
Lets go half on a baby, literally.
A joint venture is an entity formed between two or more parties to undertake economic activity together by both contributing resources in order to achieve financial gain, improve public opinion, or advance effectiveness of operations.
As has been the theme for the preceding installment of the EOC series, elements of the business world ring true in the realm of personal interaction.
It has been noted (google it) that arranged marriage are more likely to avoid a premature end by the mode and method of the divorce court. So why not, simply have a child with a person because they are financial sound, have a great gene pool, or any other numb attribute that alleviate the pressure of having a child with someone you "love".
We are made for the purpose of procreation...so why are we, as humans, aimlessly searching for someone who we "truly love" and "want to marry" to have a child with? The aggregate delay is deferring our purpose of continuing the human race.
When everything is spelled out and upfront, I believe ,the nonsense that is attached to parenthood will be erased. Defined roles, delineated resource contribution, demarcated visitation rights will outline the joint venture, that I am deeming parenthood.
Look, if done correctly, your son or daughter can come out like Sony BMG Music Group or Verizon Wireless (two very successful joint ventures)
Peace before all,
Ashley.
Lets go half on a baby, literally.
A joint venture is an entity formed between two or more parties to undertake economic activity together by both contributing resources in order to achieve financial gain, improve public opinion, or advance effectiveness of operations.
As has been the theme for the preceding installment of the EOC series, elements of the business world ring true in the realm of personal interaction.
It has been noted (google it) that arranged marriage are more likely to avoid a premature end by the mode and method of the divorce court. So why not, simply have a child with a person because they are financial sound, have a great gene pool, or any other numb attribute that alleviate the pressure of having a child with someone you "love".
We are made for the purpose of procreation...so why are we, as humans, aimlessly searching for someone who we "truly love" and "want to marry" to have a child with? The aggregate delay is deferring our purpose of continuing the human race.
When everything is spelled out and upfront, I believe ,the nonsense that is attached to parenthood will be erased. Defined roles, delineated resource contribution, demarcated visitation rights will outline the joint venture, that I am deeming parenthood.
Look, if done correctly, your son or daughter can come out like Sony BMG Music Group or Verizon Wireless (two very successful joint ventures)
Peace before all,
Ashley.
The Economics of Relationship (Part II)
What is Goodwill? Goodwill is an accounting term that describes the portion of value that is not attributable to the business' net assets. For instances, if a company is worth 1 million dollars and another company is willing to pay 1.2 million dollars, the excess of 200,000 dollars would be labeled as goodwill. How does goodwill arise in the business world? Goodwill is the "extra-mile" that a business puts in to its operations: giving back to community, consciousness of the environment, and a comfortable work environment for its employee.How can we, as individuals, foster goodwill in our relationships?
As I said in Part I, we are all marketable products that play in to the supply and demand system we call dating and relationships. The supply of needed products is the foundation ( the net asset, I mentioned above) that goodwill is added to. Goodwill in a relationship is beyond the basic attraction, physical interaction, a contractual compromise to live as a unit rather than separate entities. Yes, this approach to relationships, though a bit callous at times, has room for the sappy and mushy moments that are usually associated with relationships. Goodwill is the "extra-mile" performed by those involved to make the relationship, not just work, but special.There is no clean cut method to become the Google (which has alot of business type goodwill) of relationships, but you must insist of yourself to want more then the pure operations of your business (going through the motions). Reach beyond the book value of your assets and push for the creation of goodwill.
Peace before all,
Ashley
As I said in Part I, we are all marketable products that play in to the supply and demand system we call dating and relationships. The supply of needed products is the foundation ( the net asset, I mentioned above) that goodwill is added to. Goodwill in a relationship is beyond the basic attraction, physical interaction, a contractual compromise to live as a unit rather than separate entities. Yes, this approach to relationships, though a bit callous at times, has room for the sappy and mushy moments that are usually associated with relationships. Goodwill is the "extra-mile" performed by those involved to make the relationship, not just work, but special.There is no clean cut method to become the Google (which has alot of business type goodwill) of relationships, but you must insist of yourself to want more then the pure operations of your business (going through the motions). Reach beyond the book value of your assets and push for the creation of goodwill.
Peace before all,
Ashley
The Economics of Relationships
Some would consider me a bit detached or emotionless when it comes to relationships. Why? I believe relationships are no more than a business transaction; a merger and acquisition of two people who agree to co-exist, but they exchange wedding vows instead of marketable securities. With this said, what is my point?
Well, I have a few to be specific:
1) In economics, the demand of a product is affected by the number and quality of substitutes. Creating a marketable product that may have replacement present, but the buyer refuses to buy anything other then the concerned product. The aforementioned situation is a big advantage for companies in the realm of trade and commerce. Take Coke and Pepsi for an example: I work and attend a school which is a Coca-Cola campus, where no other competitors are sold. Those who are die hard Pepsi drinkers, will go out of their way to buy Pepsi because they believe that Coke is not a fitting replacement for the taste of Pepsi. Lets liken this example to relationships. In relationship, you, as an individual vested in an union with another person, should create a marketable product ( you and your unique qualities) that can't be replaced. Even though your boyfriend or girlfriend, wife or husband, is surrounded by Coke he or she will still choose your Pepsi.
2) Staying current. Continuing with our Coke/Pepsi example: Though Pepsi can lean on the fact that there are buyers that will always choose their product... Pepsi still can not fall to the disease of complacency...its marketing strategy, packaging styling, and manufacturing operation must stay current to maintain the level satisfaction for its buyers. The same is true for relationships. I feel in most marriages, correct me if I am wrong, are pushed into disarray because of the yearning to stay current in the other person's eyes is lacking. Staying with the times within your relationship is contributed to the wanting to stay current, communication, and positive interactions.
3) Educated and Selective (more so, exclusive ) buyer. I have focused a lot on the maker of the product, but I would be remiss, if I didn't highlight the need for a educated and selective buyer for the concept of the economics of relationships to be both logical and feasible. What is the point of a nicely packaged and high quality product, if it is being sold to a buyer that does not appreciate it? So when promoting your product to whomever you choose, make sure they are a buyer of high quality, and more importantly, someone who doesn't buy Pepsi and Coke.
Peace before all
Ashley.
Peace. Love. Empowerment.Purity
Well, I have a few to be specific:
1) In economics, the demand of a product is affected by the number and quality of substitutes. Creating a marketable product that may have replacement present, but the buyer refuses to buy anything other then the concerned product. The aforementioned situation is a big advantage for companies in the realm of trade and commerce. Take Coke and Pepsi for an example: I work and attend a school which is a Coca-Cola campus, where no other competitors are sold. Those who are die hard Pepsi drinkers, will go out of their way to buy Pepsi because they believe that Coke is not a fitting replacement for the taste of Pepsi. Lets liken this example to relationships. In relationship, you, as an individual vested in an union with another person, should create a marketable product ( you and your unique qualities) that can't be replaced. Even though your boyfriend or girlfriend, wife or husband, is surrounded by Coke he or she will still choose your Pepsi.
2) Staying current. Continuing with our Coke/Pepsi example: Though Pepsi can lean on the fact that there are buyers that will always choose their product... Pepsi still can not fall to the disease of complacency...its marketing strategy, packaging styling, and manufacturing operation must stay current to maintain the level satisfaction for its buyers. The same is true for relationships. I feel in most marriages, correct me if I am wrong, are pushed into disarray because of the yearning to stay current in the other person's eyes is lacking. Staying with the times within your relationship is contributed to the wanting to stay current, communication, and positive interactions.
3) Educated and Selective (more so, exclusive ) buyer. I have focused a lot on the maker of the product, but I would be remiss, if I didn't highlight the need for a educated and selective buyer for the concept of the economics of relationships to be both logical and feasible. What is the point of a nicely packaged and high quality product, if it is being sold to a buyer that does not appreciate it? So when promoting your product to whomever you choose, make sure they are a buyer of high quality, and more importantly, someone who doesn't buy Pepsi and Coke.
Peace before all
Ashley.
Peace. Love. Empowerment.Purity
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